SEX v. MEDITATION, Which is Right for You? Are you sure?

Sex v. Meditation, Which is Right for You? – by Invincible Victoria

If you’re into meditation and trying to reach Nirvana (a state of extreme bliss) but happen to be too high energy, ADD, or otherwise find it nearly impossible to let your mind quiet long enough to make it to this transcendental state, having an orgasm may be the answer to your meditative woes. Horray! That’s exciting. Who knew?!

For those of us who simply like to enjoy sexual experiences, what does Nirvana have to do with rockin’ out between the sheets? Ummm, apparently everything!

Photo Credit: TheRachelRoss.Com blog

Allow me take you on a little known secret about the hidden adventure behind a sexually induced dopamine trip.

According to WebMD, it turns out the reasons why Orgasms feel so good is because four quadrants of the brain near completely shut down…and check out which ones!

• 1 Fear
• 2 Behavior Controls
• 3 Anxiety

.. and my personal favorite …

• 4 Judgment  (I think we all figured this one out!)

As dopamine rushes to the brain from all the pleasure senses your body is feeling, bliss overwhelms until the Big O is achieved.  Up to 10 seconds of extreme bliss for men and 20 seconds for women. Then  Poof! It’s gone! Round two anyone?

According to Dr. Oz, like exercise, during sex our cortisol levels (which is a chemical our body produces responsible for stress) increase initially and then decrease shortly thereafter bringing stress levels down. Meditation however immediately works towards lowering cortisol producing the same end-result without the physical exertion. There’s no stress involved…unless of course you get stressed thinking about how to not think – which for me is completely plausible.

If the point of meditation is to reach a state of being where fears, worry, anxiety, decisions, and thoughts dissipate then sex may be a hidden short-cut producing the same effect. But, which is right for you?

After all, one takes nearly a few minutes to achieve and others years to find a good partner. By that I mean it’s pretty easy to find someone to get-off on if you find you know your body well. But, it can take years to find someone who can lead a really great meditation session and worse, once you find them, it’s up to your mind to calm down long enough to get into the groove.

So, does your need for instant gratification overtake your desire to put forth energy to relax? What is it you are truly looking to gain out of either experience? Are you wanting to not feel alone? To get centered? To find pleasure? Or simply seeking Happiness? … and why?

Aside from a quick fix to de-stress, in the long-term, sex can create bonds with people we fancy, work towards building a family, help us feel human and connected, and offers an immediate release of hormones that need to be exerted (especially for women) to give us a reboot to happy. But, what if we can’t find it or don’t have access to the good sex we crave? Is meditation a good alternative if it produces the same results? Or do we just need to hit the gym?

Meditation, like an orgasm, is a form of extreme release and mental reboot. The mindful part of meditation however, is it rids your central data system (the brain) of all thoughts that are not serving you your highest good cleaning out your thought files so-to-speak. However, it takes time and may lead to consciousness of suppressed emotions, working through painful moments, and forgiving oneself and others to release negative blocks and self-limiting beliefs. Mediation is self-healing and gets stagnant energy moving. It is the ultimate weight-lifting experience. Perhaps it’s safe to say meditation is a strengthening exercise for your mind…

We already know sex can be a great workout which is an added bonus.  (And no, anything under 7 minutes doesn’t count!) It’s pretty hard to say no to killing two birds with one lay… I mean, stone. The fact our orgasms literally allow our brains to finally shut down and shut up – even if only temporarily in itself is reason enough to hop in the sack. Isn’t that the point? But, if orgasm isn’t achieved, we’re not getting the complete reboot we had our heart (..errr mind..) set on. And that seems a wasted effort if you ask me.

Additionally, sex may come with an undesirable aftermath if we’re bed hopping, post-traumatic break-up, have confidence issues, or in rocky unstable relationships. Fun bedroom experiences leaves women with (a lot!) more thinking to do. Which defeats the purpose – doesn’t it?

I mean, here’s all the extras a woman thinks of:

• Was it good sex? Was it bad?
• Do you like the person you slept with? Does it even matter?
• Do you stay? Should you go?
• What does he think of you now? Why does that matter? You don’t care. Or do you?
• How awkward is breakfast going to be?
• Was it angry sex with lots of tension built up? Or was it romantic in nature?
• Is this only a one-time thing?
• Do you already regret the escapade?
• Do you leave your number or ask him never to call?
• Did one of you finish but, not the other?
• Are you connected to the person or did it feel like a chore?
• Did you wake up in love? How did you feel afterward?
• Was there cuddling involved? (FYI: When cuddling is involved you have a new set of issues if you’re guy isn’t the commitment type and you are.)

Like cocaine, sugar, pot, caffeine, and other legal and illegal substances used to control our brain’s energy and output levels, sex can do the same. Two to four weeks after sex, a woman’s body goes through sexual deprivation. The body craves what you feed it. Depravation leads to (often false) romantic feelings simply trying to get your body another fix. So, be forewarned.

Similarly, like eating healthy, working towards sculpting a fabulously in shape body, or moving slowly in romantic relationships – the things that we have to consciously work towards take longer to master. In sum, meditation is a process that takes effort. But, when done correctly meditation is focused on consciously clearing the mind and allowing yourself to sink into your subconscious to clear the clutter behind the scenes too for the long-haul.

If you’re feeling isolated and alone, the last place you want to be is stuck in your head in order to find your “happy spot” however, self-love is always in order. So don’t fret if you’ve got sex on your mind and want some instant gratification to fix your happy.  Meditation is like masturbation for the soul. Check out this song! Love it! “I Love Me” by HAIZ (only 163 million views on YouTube!) Rock on chicky! You got this! – I*V  xoxo

 

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